How to Find Your Feeding Groove

In life and parenthood, finding what works best for you is an ongoing process of trial and error. No matter how many books we read, advice we hear, or videos we watch; eventually it comes down to trying something and seeing what works. 

This holds true for feeding a newborn baby. Your feeding groove is simply whatever way of feeding your baby works best for both of you (you’re a team). This also is an ongoing process as you two learn together and as baby grows. What worked last week might not fly today. Triplely so if you’re tandem feeding, whether multiple newborns or your toddler and newborn. 

Here are 10 tips to help you and baby find your feeding groove

1.Redirect an On-the-Go Mindset

Slowing down, allowing yourself to rest, relax, and enjoy stillness while feeding your baby. Like any mindfulness practice; it takes time. 

2. Let it Go

That means dirty dishes, laundry, and other distractions. If you’re able, let that stuff go. If not; request or hire help to minimize the to-do list. 

3. Set Boundaries

Frequent visitors (the ones that overstay their welcome without offering to do a load of laundry). Anything or anyone else that adds more stress to your day. You and baby are working hard and you both don’t need that kind of negativity right now.

4. Be Patient With Yourself

You are doing an amazing job. Your baby loves you and is so lucky to have you. 

5. Phone a Friend

 Hearing from a good friend alleviates loneliness and bolsters confidence. Vent, brainstorm, or catch up.

6. Call in Back-Up

Still having difficulties achieving a comfortable latch or other feeding struggles? Call your local La Leche League International Leader for suggestions. Talk with an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant) for more problem solving. 

7. Find Your Village

Meeting up with other breastfeeding moms at a La Leche League International meetup. Parenting groups online or in person. Parents from a childbirth class. Finding your people that are familiar with the journey you are on are priceless.

8. Hire a Doula

Perfect for the times when friends and family might be at work or live far away. Your doula is there for you and can help connect you with the resources you may need. 

9. When in Doubt, Try Again

That football hold your baby didn’t like 3 weeks ago? Try it now, they might find it more comfortable now. Cycle through tips and tricks to see if something works better now. 

10. Trust Your Gut

The more you learn about your baby, the easier it will be to find what works or identify if something might be wrong. Trust yourself and your instincts. You know your baby. 

What are some ways you’ve found your feeding groove? Share in the comments below!